NLP Books

New perspectives on many learning difficulties and further insights into Autism

The publication of “Bridges to Success – how to Transform Learning Difficulties” is doing what I hoped it would – giving people a different perspective on learning difficulties and teaching whole families new skills to improve some of the symptoms, whilst treasuring the exceptional skills. There are thousands of desperate parents out there who would love to have new simple skills to try out with their kids and it is a delight when I get feedback from readers, normally around “thank you for helping me understand my children”. 

Since publication we have continued to investigate why and how grounding is such an vital part of the jigsaw puzzle.  Having devoted 2 chapters in the book to all the symptoms that are seen as a direct result of being ungrounded, our attention is now on why children are so ungrounded, what causes it and what are the benefits to the individual.  The results of this are likely to be many and varied.

Grounding is such a simple skill and free to anyone I would recommend that anyone who has a child with learning difficulties finds out more, reads Bridges to Success and if you are motivated to help others with challenges do feed back your experiences to us.  Grounding is free, which maybe the reason it is so often dismissed, and from my own experience and that of others it can literally be “the essential key that is so often overlooked”.

by Olive Hickmott

(Source: olivehickmott.wordpress.com)

Entrancing Tales for Change with NLP and Hypnosis

There may have been many times when you wished you had it in you to change your life but you didn’t think you knew how. Do you want to change something in your life right now? Do you lack motivation and enthusiasm? Do you feel stressed out by fear and regrets? Would you like to move forwards and get on and enjoy your life? Then this book is for you! These Entrancing Tales will debug your subconscious mind and release your true potential. Things you thought you didn’t have in you will suddenly reveal themselves to you in the most unexpected ways. Entertaining and easy to read, these hypnotic stories will lead you on a journey of change and you might like to read them more than once and enjoy how they make you feel. By the end of this book, you will notice an automatic change in you. You will see things in a different light. You will have found a way of doing things you once found challenging with ease. All you need to do is find a comfortable place and read one tale at a time.

Entrancing Tales for Change with Hypnosis and NLP by The English Sisters is a self-help book like no other. As you read this book, you will start to notice how easy and effortless it is to bring about changes in your life. All you need to do is find a comfortable place and read one tale at a time.

Entrancing Tales for Change is available from all good book stores, including Amazon and in all electronic formats, including Amazon Kindle

FREE – FIRST CHAPTER OF ‘BE A HAPPIER PARENT’

Email me at judy@nlpkids.com

I will send you a copy of the first chapter completely FREE

Here’s a copy of the contents page

Part 1 – Basic NLP principles

1. Introduction to NLP – what is NLP, ground rules, Modelling and why NLP is great for your children

2. Identity – who am I? What do I want? Questionnaire What does it all mean?

3. Communicating – Achieving the desired response, rapport, negotiating skills, giving and receiving support, embracing change

4. Time Management – valuing your time, prioritizing, coping with guilt, ‘me’ time, delegating

Part 2 – Applying NLP at home

5. Lack of confidence – coping with fear of failure, not being a good mother, embarrassment, Envy, Knowing your strengths, giving your child confidence, supporting schoolwork, friends

6. Guilty feelings – not enough time for the children, children not eating well, coping with fear and anxiety

7. Coping with change – going back to work, not going back to work, stay at home dad, then there were two, moving house, changing schools, divorce/separation/illness/death, death of a pet

8. Coping with conflict – sibling rivalry, bullying, disobedience, jealousy and anger, internal conflicts, pester power

9. Teenagers – communicating with your teenager, teaching teenagers to be streetwise, sexual issues

You can buy my book direct from me for the RRP of £9.99 or $15 using PayPal and I will pay the postage but you will need to email me for the PayPal address judy@nlpkids.com  Let me know if you’d like me to sign it for you!

By Judy Bartkowiak

Kids NLP Workshops

Half term week 13th – 17th 10am-12am I shall be running small group sessions with children to introduce them to some of the basic NLP skills and principles around

• ‘I can’t!’ challenging limiting beliefs and fears
• Focusing on what works and being solution focused
• Having compelling outcomes – positive thinking and reframing, using feedback as learning

The cost is £12 per session including a copy of NLP for Children or NLP for Teens.

Location is Burnham, Bucks, UK

Call 01628 660618 to book

Monday, Tuesday and Thursday are for children 7-11yrs

Wednesday and Friday for  children aged 12-15yrs

posted by Judy Bartkowiak

Special offers on Judy Bartkowiak books!

All my Engaging NLP books are for sale on this site for £4.99 plus P&P which is £2 less than the recommended retail price and less than the price on Amazon CLICK HERE to take a look.

I wrote these after writing Teach Yourself : Be a happier parent with NLP because I felt there was a need for more of a workbook style of NLP book aimed at specific needs

Parents

Children

Teachers

Teenagers

New Mums

Back to Work

They are all quick reads for busy people who want to know how they can use NLP in their lives to tackle the sort of issues they have. The books are illustrated and offer helpful exercises you can do using the NLP techniques. Each exercise gives instructions and space to write down your thoughts.

The children’s book NLP for children is for you and your child to work through together. The ideal age for this is for a child aged about 4-11yrs and obviously a child aged 9-11yr can read and use the book on their own.

The teenage book is written for them to use to address issues they have around school or Uni, work, getting a job, peer group pressure, relationships and so on.

The Back to Work book is perfect for mums thinking about whether to go back to work or not or consider other options such as working freelance, starting their own business or taking on activities which may in time become businesses.

New Mums covers everything connected with pregnancy, childbirth and those early months giving you ways to manage tiredness, stress and the roller coaster of emotions we get at this time. I remember it well!

They are called Engaging NLP because they are workbooks and I want you to engage with them, use them and learn from them in a way I don’t feel existing NLP books can be used. Indeed the Teach Yourself book packed full as it is with everything you could possibly encounter as a parent, is a solid read and not a workbook despite it having exercises in it.

As well as being a mum of 4 children (now aged 11, 19, 22 and 23) and a former teacher, I am a Master Practitioner in NLP and a Trainer. I run workshops and offer NLP coaching on a one to one basis either face to face or via SKYPE or phone but I believe that by reading my books you will find the help you are looking for. If you still need some support please call me (01628 660618 or 00 44 1628 660618) or email me (judy@nlpkids.com) or contact me via the contact form because the reason I write the books and work with children and teenagers (and their parents) is because I care and I want to empower you to be happier parents and for your children to have the skills at their fingertips to be happier children.

NLP has long been used in the workplace but I feel that it is an essential parenting tool because being a parent is, I believe, the most important role we have in life. What we do and say, how we behave and the beliefs we pass on to our children make an enormous impact. They are constantly changing as are we as we learn and experience new things. These books are there for you , to help you in this important role. If I can help you further just get in touch. I don’t charge for a quick phone call or email you know!

posted by Judy Bartkowiak

A happier pregnancy with NLP

If you’ve heard of NLP it’s probably been in the context of business where the principles of Neuro linguistic programming seem to be given more prominence because people associate the results with success in business relationships in management, selling and so on. In fact, NLP is extremely useful in family life and by applying the core principles we can achieve clearer communication of our needs and ensure they are met in an ecological way, that is to everyone’s benefit not just ours!

Whether your pregnancy is planned or unplanned, changes are happening to your body, your mind, your relationships and your future. So how can NLP help?

Well according to NLP we have the resources to do whatever we set our mind to but we may not realise it or recognise the resource. Let’s say for example that you are finding it difficult to keep the secret of your pregnancy at work and you’re afraid you will blurt it out to someone before you’re ready. So when you last had a secret how did you keep it? Maybe someone told you a secret about something and you kept it. How did you do that? What belief did you have about the secret? Do you hold that belief about the secret of your pregnancy? Could you hold that belief? If you change your belief you will change the behaviour associated with the belief.

Are you feeling worried about the birth? How have you coped with other similar events? Have you been able to overcome your worry about another event? How did you succeed in doing that? Could you try the same process this time?

It feels now as if what you are experiencing is all quite new and different and a bit scary. Try to find another situation where you had those feelings. Maybe you felt like this on the first day at a new school? Did you feel like this about your wedding day? What about the first day of a new important job?

Close your eyes and think about that time. Picture yourself before that time, a few days before the event and remember how you felt. What about just before, the day before the event, how did you feel then?

What about the actual event itself, how was that? Picture yourself right in the middle of the event at the very worse moment of it. Can you remember what you did and how you got through the day?

Now picture yourself a few days later. How do you look now, how do you feel? Can you notice anything about yourself after the scary feelings had passed? They do pass don’t they? You do have the resource to overcome the fear of change don’t you?

Lots of mums to be feel guilty that though they are excited about the baby they are worried about whether they will be ‘a good mum’. Again I want you to think about your resources. Take a piece of paper and a pen and write down a list of what you do well. You will have lots of different life experiences, work, friends, sport and so on. What do you do well in each of these situations? What would your friends say of you, what do your parents say of you? All of these skills will make you the good mum you want to be. There is no absolute model of what makes a good mum.

Now look at that list and think about how that quality you have identified could be useful and beneficial to you as a mum. Are you good at making people laugh? Are you kind to your friends? Are you someone they can rely on? Do you learn things quickly? Whatever the qualities are that make you who you are now – these will be what will make you a good mum.

Judy is the author of Teach Yourself: Be a happier parent with NLP and the Engaging NLP workbook NLP for New Mums. Both available at Buy NLP Books

NLP apps for your phone!

I now have an app on the market with a daily tip (NLP inspired of course). Whether you are already familiar with NLP or just curious, these tips will give you something to think about. They are not just designed for parents or for you as a parent but are personal (I don’t mean X -rated!) and will resonate with you whatever you do or are in life.

I enjoyed writing them and even now, familiar as I am with NLP, I check my app every day and look at the thought. They still connect with me because they are about who we are and that is constantly changing as we meet new people and have new experiences.

I would be enormously grateful if you would post a review of the app and share it with your friends on Twitter or Linked In, tumblr, Facebook etc

Here is the Android link – Click HERE

Here is the Iphone/Ipad/Ipod  link – Click HERE

The Windows 7 one is on the way!

posted by Judy Bartkowiak

Are you ‘trying’ to keep your New Year’s resolutions?

OK so New Year’s Eve has come and gone and you’re over the hangover and the over eating. In the next few days you will find those resolutions you made just a few days ago, don’t seem quite so important or urgent. “I’ll go on a diet once the kids have gone back to school” I hear you say. “I’ll have a run when it’s stopped raining” or “I’ll have a glass of wine because I deserve one after that hard day at work”. We’ve all been there, haven’t we?!

The problem is that we tell ourselves that we are ‘trying’ which means that in all probability we don’t expect to succeed. You use the word ‘trying’ to show that it is going to be hard. Guess what, if you expect it to be difficult and you expect to fail then you will. Why? Because where you put your attention is what you’ll get.

Instead, tell yourself that it is easy and that you will do it. Talk about how it will feel to have succeeded, how you will look, what others will say and how you will feel about yourself. Let it be a ‘done deal’. If you are aiming for a slimmer body, get rid of clothes as you find them too loose. If you are wanting more exercise then keep your exercise clothes out and to hand, make sure you’re always ready to go. Find a running buddy if you want company.

When you hear yourself use the ‘try’ word, rephrase what you were saying without that word in your sentence.

When you need extra support remind yourself of what you have already done towards your goal. Focus on the positive steps you have taken and remind yourself how good that feels.

If you want to know more about NLP go to www.nlpkids.com

Judy Bartkowiak is the author of Teach Yourself: Be a happier parent with NLP and the Engaging NLP series of workbooks available at www.nlpandkidsbooks.com

(Source: judybartkowiak.com)

Social media (including Facebook) threat to adopted children grows in UK

Adoption and NLP expert Helen Oakwater’s new book, Bubble Wrapped Children, released this week, has generated a worldwide storm lifting the lid on a major crisis within adoption.

Reuters, The Times (in a front page article), The Sun, The Australian, The Daily Mail are among dozens of major media outlets that carried features on Thursday and Friday.

Helen also appeared on SKY News and ITV’s Daybreak interviews.

Here is the SKY News interview.

http://video.sky.com/embed/external/16143245

Below is an extract the article from Reuters.

Reuters - LONDON | Thu Jan 5, 2012.

“British youngsters adopted after abusive childhoods are at risk of fresh emotional turmoil as some birth parents turn to Facebook and other social networking sites to track them down, adoption agencies said on Thursday. The ease with which birth parents can use technology to get in touch with their children without warning and without following established safeguards has alarmed adoption agencies.

Families who have been contacted have described the experience as like being in a “slow motion car crash” leaving them “battered and bruised.” Some families have been torn apart. “Social networking sites have blown things open — you can’t keep things secret,” said Julia Feast, consultant at the British Association for Adoption and Fostering (BAAF), which campaigns for children in care.

“It really unsettles the whole family,” she told Reuters. “It’s like a bomb being thrown inside it and you don’t know how you are going to pull the pieces together again if children are not being prepared.”

Under British law, birth parents cannot access the adoption records of their children and usually, in the days before social networking, it was very difficult for them to make contact.

Since 2005, adopted adults and their birth relatives have had the legal right to ask for intermediary services from an approved agency to help them make contact with each other, but this can be turned down if there are concerns following an assessment.

It is not known how many birth parents are using social networking sites to get around this, but the BAAF said it was receiving “more and more cases.”

The full article is available on Reuters Website.

Bubble Wrapped Children is available from all good bookshops including Barnes and Noble USA and Amazon UK, and in most electronic formats including Amazon Kindle.

(Source: mxpublishing.me)

Jan 10th: Harpenden Complementary Practitioners group business meeting